WHAT IS SHAME
Shame is personal; it’s you rejecting you basically; with shame you have failed yourself. Shame is a lower energy vibration with a self-destructive impact on your life. It interferes with your happiness and fulfillment as a person. It cripples self-worth, the biggest determining factor to your success and ability to make money. We human beings have a have a deep need to be known, seen and recognized for the unique creations we really are and not properly dealing with shame annihilates this.
THE TYPES OF SHAME
Who you are – Involves the way you feel about yourself and view yourself as a whole. 
This self rejection exists because your idea of yourself fails to meet who you think you should be. It is based on your assessment of how you are meeting a standard or standards that you have set for yourself. It’s about your short comings. Feel a deep down conviction that you are worthless.
Loss in Status – Emotional result from an action you have taken that has lowered your status in the world – it’s about being disgraced, dishonored.
Result of an Action – Emotional Consequence from your actions – due to you actually doing something that let your own self done. The action didn’t lower your status. In your opinion, you did not do your best. This is different from guilt where with guilt you would have harmed someone else. In this case you have not done your best and you feel ashamed about that.
WHY DOES SHAME HURT?
Emotions have and energetic value and shame is a lower level energy with a dense value. Shame is an intrinsic emotional punishment for bad behavior. It is also a painful emotion resulting from an awareness of inadequacy. You believe that you aren’t good enough. In your heart and mind things aren’t how they are supposed to be. You feel like you are not at home in your body. You feel like a prisoner of your mind and cut off from the experience of life. The disconnection from the self leaves you with no place to rest. The pain of not belonging and not being understood is what you are feeling.
WHAT IS SHAME GOOD FOR – It has OPPORTUNITIES Shame doesn’t have to be bad. If others invaluable opportunities
- The emotion of shame offers you the opportunity to get to know yourself and develop self-love. It is makes you aware of the fact that you don’t know who you really are and give you the impetus to satisfy your deep longing to be seen, heard and valued for you. It is an excellent check point system for exposing whether you are lying to and deceiving yourself.
- Change encourages you to do your best as it by providing an incentive to avoid fear, criticism, abandonment and rejection. This spurs you on to constructive action to change your destructive ways and increase your status.
- Shame can make you more compassionate. In realizing your humanity and accepting what “is” instead of resisting it, you are opened up to the humanity of others.
HOW DO YOU KNOW THAT SHAME IS PRESENT
Shame can be stealth condition that you don’t even realize has gotten a hold on you and is energetically sabotaging your efforts. Other than the obvious symptoms, there are other expressions of shame. I am going to come at this from a different angle. Below is a listing of symptoms of what a sense of worthlessness the energy of shame would express.
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FEATURES OF Pt. 2
DANGERS OF NOT PROPRERLY TAKING THE ACTION TO DEAL WITH SHAME
WHERE DOES SHAME COME FROM
PRACTICAL TOOLS AND TECHNIQUES FOR HANDLING AND ELIMINATING SHAME
Great post. One of my clients refers to shame as Should Have Already Mastered Everything and that helped to open my eyes a lot about shame. I like what you said, here: “It is makes you aware of the fact that you don’t know who you really are and give you the impetus to satisfy your deep longing to be seen, heard and valued for you. It is an excellent check point system for exposing whether you are lying to and deceiving yourself.” I never thought about it like that.
Lena, great acronym for SHAME. That “should” word can be a 4-letter word sometimes. Yes, as a checkpoint, shame has benefits. As a matter fact, there are no good or bad emotions it’s our judgments (perceptions) that make them painful. Shame can help you know yourself and be true to yourself. We have the power to decide the meaning we give to things and realizing that we have a deep seated hatred or feeling that we are “wrong” at our essence is an awakening that shame illuminates. This emotion can serve to remind us to love and accept ourselves. Thanks so much for your comment.
Thank you for this post. It is very informative and cuts to the core of the issue.
Thank you Lilia. I appreciate your comment.
I guess we’ve all been there at one (or more!) times in our lives. We’re all human and as you say, having self-compassion is very important for working through this and for developing compassion for others.
Aw yes Linda, “self compassion.” It is such a crucial element to our wholeness and power. Every time we encounter a tough emotion, instead of ignoring or avoiding it, lean into it and have self compassion on yourself throughout the process. It only takes 8 – 10 minutes for a emotion to enter and leave you. We don’t have to get stuck in our feelings and grow numb, depressed or anxious. Thank goodness for free healthcare like this.