Why is Choice essential to your well being?
What does it mean for you to be At Choice?
Could it possibly mean that you have the right to decide the who, what, where, when, how and why of your life?
And…if you believe that you are intentionally living “At Choice” are you really?
Choice is about being autonomous. It’s about being connected to the “real you,” your true self and living out the expression of that. It’s about totally owning your existence, living your life as you desire and doing no one else harm.
It’s about making a decision, following it through and sticking with it even if and while others are attempting to control you by fear and/or guilt.
It’s about standing up for yourself and not succumbing to the will, demands, manipulations, and opinion of others.
It’s about living the life you want to live and owning your decisions free of guilt and fear.
Critical Importance of Choice.
In order for you to have unshakeable confidence, to feel the thrill of being alive, to quench your need for significance and know that your life matters, to feel cared for and cared about and a part of a community, to be growing and expanding, to effectively contribute something of value that helps others makes the world a better place. In order for you to have these essential needs met, you must OWN YOUR CHOICE.
When you don’t, your change attempts fail to produce results and the intimate, personal and internal dynamics that are causing you pain in your life resist being healed and overcome. Your false self thrives.
Also because of how spiritual law works, in your outer external world, you also encounter setbacks, situations, events and circumstances that don’t match what you desire in your heart. Bottom line, your issues do not get resolved.
Choice is Power…one of your keys to Personal Power!
When you make a choice, that choice is a contractual agreement. An agreement that comes with real world consequences that will be experienced in your life. Your conscious or unconscious choices have the same exact effect of you signing a physical document agreeing to some manner of experience in this world. This is certainly not a power that you want to take lightly. Our lives are based on choice and built one choice at a time.
Your Choice is Your Truth.
We are fearfully and wonderfully made. We are purpose driven beings who have come into this life committed to fulfilling that purpose. Though we may seem to have forgotten, deep within we remember what our commitments are, they are our truths.
Choice is how we honor those commitments. When we make a choice that goes against those commitments we put a wedge between ourselves and our truth and become misaligned.
Choice Is How You Learn That You Can Depend On Yourself.
Choice is a cousin to trust. Trust is the adhesive of all that we do and it makes things work. Trust is the foundation of a commitment. When we break a commitment with ourselves we undermine our ability to trust ourselves and sow seeds of doubt into our hearts – subconscious minds. Self Doubt is born or further entrenched within us by poor choosing. Since our lives manifest according to our beliefs, as a man thinketh in his heart so is he, Pr 23:7 it is essential that we protect our power to choose.
Self Trust is empowered by your choice making process. Trust requires that you know your own experience and honor it. Here is where the issues come in.
Some of us have been conditioned to seek third-party approval before we make choices in our lives, especially the ones that are critical. Some of us are under the illusion that we are living our lives at choice but really are being controlled by the past. We think we are choosing but self fate is what we are experiencing.
Being at choice cannot happen if you are giving your perception away to another. It is owning your experiencing. When you are being at choice you are taking 100% responsibility for your life. You are present to how you feel, non judgmental and in command of your actions.
So what’s hard about this? Societal rules and Religious beliefs. Unfortunately, not everyone is managing their energy so that they maintain a healthy stock of their own personal power. For these individuals, they must extract the power they need from others since they don’t generate it within themselves. Whether the attempted control is from society or a religious sect it’s still robbery and a theft of power.
It is in your perceiving that this power is developed and increased. Your perception is how you see things, how you feel about things, the way that you think about things, the meaning that you give to things. Another word for this is consciousness. The word consciousness is synonymous with Energy, the mean the same thing.
This energy need of emotional vampires, choice stealers and manipulators, people who lack personal power is so essential and so critical to them that they will expertly manipulate you into deferring your perception to them so that they can extract power from you willing. Wonder why you feel drained by certain people?
With this power gone, you can’t unfold and expand like you were designed.
Misalignment to your true self happens when you live accepting what other’s perceive as your truth.
Know this! You don’t need to go outside yourself to get approval to act on behalf of your own life. You’ve been given authority by God to OWN your life.
You were created to experience. Your have senses. Your senses don’t exist on anyone else’s body. You have your own mind, no one else can think your thoughts. You have a spirit that connects to God and an intuition when developed, that will work with your spirit to equip you to be in position to receive all that God has made available for you.
Your experiences will be unique and your will perceive things differently from everyone else on this planet. That is how your were designed, State-of-the-art, that is what you are.
The power of choice was given to you freely and you are to be a steward over it. Use it to design your life according to your purpose and desires. You have a right to pursue this, do so with full intention and joy.
Lana McMurray is the founder of Free 2 Thrive Coaching LLC. She is a Growing Certainty Coach for ambitious people trapped in all-too-ordinary lives. She helps entrepreneurs, creatives and business owners successfully navigate Uncertainty as they go through their unavoidable Journey of Growth. She understands the many ways that risk-taking, self starting people secretly undermine themselves and stop the growth process. She helps them stay True to Themselves so that grow into their extraordinary lives.
She also personally knows that “Life can be Messy” and there is a unique difficulty in being an Entrepreneur, Creative or Business Owner who is seeking to to be “True to Themselves” and grow their lives and businesses but at home is dealing with toxic a relationship. As an overcomer of Verbal/Emotional Abuse, she helps them gain Clarity and make empowering decisions. To get your F*R*E*E Trainings and weekly Growth Support visit https://www.free2thrivecoaching.com
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